Wednesday, March 6, 2013

My girls and breakfast

My girls love to make breakfast. They love to help in the kitchen all the time, but breakfast is their favorite time of all.

The other day Sophia came to me asking if she could make breakfast the following morning. After I had agreed to that idea we needed to have a 'secret meeting' so we could talk about her menu plan. It had to be a secret because this whole breakfast thing was a surprise for Emma and Elijah. We planned out the breakfast...she decided to add a twist to her 'specialty', she jumped in bed, and I walked out of the room in awe of the sweet servant's heart that God had given this precious girl. He put that desire there, and it is up to me to cultivate it.

 She made her breakfast, served it to her siblings, and beamed the whole time. It was a delicious breakfast and a wonderful time listening to the compliments of Emma and Elijah and seeing the smiles. Granted, life isn't always this way. We have our share of arguments and spats. But for that morning, Sophia acted on the God-given desire to serve her siblings, and we were all blessed by it.

This is hard to admit, but sometimes, it's hard for me to let my kids help in the kitchen, or do things on their own. My personality naturally is to just 'get things done and move on to the next part of our routine'. But, that isn't nurturing or teaching. I've been thinking about these verses in Titus 2 a lot lately:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Titus 2:3-5

I know this verse is speaking in regards to older and younger women in the church. But I am among the first 'older women' in my daughter's lives.  They are learning how to live a Christian  life, how to walk, talk, act, and serve from me. The way I speak to their father is the way they will learn to speak to him and their one-day husbands. The way I interact with them and their brothers is the way they will learn to interact with each other and their one-day children. Allowing them to help out in the kitchen is teaching them how to serve others. These young years are so fleeting, but so very important. And even though it may throw the day off schedule by letting Sophia make a special breakfast, or by letting Emma prepare lunch, it is beneficial for them to do it, to learn from their mother. It's what I am called to as their mother and as an older woman in their life.

It may seem like, from reading our blog, all we do is hang out in the kitchen and make yummy things together. While we do do that a lot, it isn't without effort on my part. I continually have to refocus and remember what my job is as a stay at home mom. It's ok to get off schedule every once in awhile, or to take a whole afternoon and just bake or craft or paint or whatever! That's part of the joy of homeschooling! God is working on me, that's for sure, shaking me out of my routine oriented self.

I don't really know why I'm sharing this post. I know it's more for myself than for you. I need to remember that even though having the kids 'help' in the kitchen may not be as much of a help as they mean it to be, they are learning to think of others rather than themselves, and me allowing them to do the simple act of making breakfast is cultivating the sweet spirit of servanthood God put within them.

Sophia's yummy breakfast!

Sophia's Specialty Breakfast

1.Toast a piece of bread.
2.Butter it.
3.Spread peanut butter on top.
4.Cut bananas and put them on top.
5.Put some jelly on top of the bananas. (the special twist she added)